Singers need to have confidence.
What is the true meaning of confidence?
Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities — not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic, secure way. Confidence isn’t about feeling superior to others. It’s a quiet inner knowledge that you’re capable. Confident people: … know they can rely on their skills and strengths to handle whatever comes up.
When people are listening to music or watching a performance, the experience is that the listener is focused on the singer first. That means that the instrumentalists are more in the background.
That means, if we are singing solo, the pressure is on us to perform well.
Singers must remember lyrics and work with an instrument that we don’t always have control of. We don’t get the feedback like you do when you are playing an instrument external to our body.
It is harder for us to sing higher; we have to be in great shape, feeling well. If you want a higher note on a piano, you simply push the key.
The singer is the one who must connect with the audience. We are the ones telling the story.
That is stressful, as it can be difficult to make that connection, especially when we don’t feel fully confident in ourselves.
Confidence is about making sure we are as prepared as we can be before going on stage.
If you are worried about aspects of your singing and don’t have true confidence both technically and expressively, there can be the concern about failure.
True confidence comes with mastering your instrument technically. This means feeling good about what you want to sing on a regular basis, whatever that is.
When the singer makes a mistake, it is noticed. Of course, we will always experience mistakes on stage, it is part of life. No one is perfect. But we need to have the confidence to be on stage, present our songs, and be confident, so that when we have those moments, we can shake it off and keep going.
Confidence is knowing you have the flexibility and versatility to sing what you want to sing.
You need to know your songs well. You don’t want to be struggling to remember lyrics, or not knowing what the melody line is. You need to memorize your songs, so that you don’t have to worry about reading them.
Mental confidence comes from doing something a lot, so much that you have prepared yourself and don’t even have to think about it. You can’t be worrying about whether the note will be there.
You also must give yourself permission to fail, and you also need to give the audience permission to not like you. Remember that you won’t please everyone. Not everyone will like you. And you must let go.
There will be some in the audience who will love you, and you need to sing for those people. Remember its not about you, its about your audience and how you are there to connect with them. Don’t worry about yourself, connect with the lyrics, the emotion and what you are trying to share.
I hope you have experienced the joy of connecting with a singer and being touched by the song they are singing. You are in the moment with them. If there is a wrong note, so be it. They just let it go and keep sharing. That is what is important.
That is what great singing is about.
